"Your issues don’t have to have power over you because other people empower you to rise above them, ideally." -Todd VanDerWerff, AV Club
The concept that quote is espousing isn't really a popular one it seems. I read another quote by C.S. Lewis that said "Don't let your happiness depend on something you may lose," which as it stands as a general blanket statement, I disagree with*. While I agree that you shouldn't put all your happiness eggs in one basket (feel free to use that curious metaphor), because that will inevitably hurt you and also it hinders your ability to make that other person happy if this said basket is a person, simply put we as human beings are going to depend somewhat on potentially fluctuating things for some degree of happiness.
*(Sort of goes along with a blog post my friend wrote about how generalizations suck, something I agree with)
For instance: C.S. Lewis himself was married at one point in time, and his wife died. There is a book written by Lewis about his raw bereavement entitled "A Grief Observed." A person completely prescribing to the Lewis quote above would say "I guess he shouldn't have depended on his wife for happiness." That's a pretty screwed up attitude to have.
I ranted about this for nine minutes in a video because I was both bored and angry. But to be more concise than I was before: people are going to let you down sometimes, friends and family, and that's going to make you sad, because you invested time and feelings into those people, but that's okay, because those people make you happy as well, and ideally you've found or will find people that make you happy more than the alternative.
I really like the first quote by Mr. VanDerWerff (sorry if this next part is sappy) because it explains partially how I feel about my close friends, and I'm going to stop talking now since I'm bad at making that eloquent like a certain VanDerWerff did.
Lastly, the article I read the VanDerWerff quote was a review of a Community episode in the AV Club. Community comes on this Thursday, and that is a fantastic thing. Here is Community's very own Troy Barnes:
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